We can't let Incontinence stop us. So many people are paralyzed by the fear of their incontinence. They stop having a social life or stop dating. Cowering in fear at home and defeated every time they go potty in their diaper. I know, I have been there. But we have to learn to take life on with the same carefree attitude that we did before we had the incontinence.
I know sometimes this seems impossible. The thought of living normal life in a diaper is not so easy or appealing. But it can be done. And yes there maybe a few embarrassing moments, But those make us so much stronger. So here are some tips and ways that I have started having a normal life.
So one thing that will ease your mind is being well prepared when you go out. One of the things that I do to prepare, is to always have a bag packed. Just like we do with a child, you pack diapers, wipes, creams, powders and extra clothes. I do the same thing. For my everyday bag there is always at least two diapers packed in my purse. I use a messenger bag style purse cause it fits diapers perfectly. If I am having a day where I am going to be out for a long time then I pack more of the items I mentioned.
For me my biggest fear and challenge was working. I was terrified that my co-workers would hear the diapers sound, or that they could smell when I was wet. I can smell it so I assume people around me can. I however have learned that this is not really the case. When I think I smell really bad I ask my mom, she says she has never smelled me, and that she would tell me if she did. That has settled my mind about the smell a bit. However I still make sure that I change when needed so it does not have a chance of smelling. I also was scared of work cause at my job when we leave we are supposed to check each other's bags. I work retail and it is just a preventative measure against stealing. So everyday I leave I have to show the manager that I have nothing in my bag. And yes this means the have to see that I carry diapers with me. I figured they would say something about it, but not one of them has. I have even had the bravery to tell a few of them about my condition and they are ok with it.
When you go out for a party you just have to not care what people think about your condition. Just take the bull by the horns and have some fun. Prepare for the needs you may have, like changes and leaks. For me, I had to come to realize that to most people it does not matter that you are incontinent. If you are confident about it they will be confident as well. They will see that you are still the same person that they like to have fun with. You will not magically be standing in front of them in just a diaper all the sudden when you tell them or when they find out. Most adults understand and are fine with you and your incontinence. So just go out and have fun!
I know sometimes this seems impossible. The thought of living normal life in a diaper is not so easy or appealing. But it can be done. And yes there maybe a few embarrassing moments, But those make us so much stronger. So here are some tips and ways that I have started having a normal life.
So one thing that will ease your mind is being well prepared when you go out. One of the things that I do to prepare, is to always have a bag packed. Just like we do with a child, you pack diapers, wipes, creams, powders and extra clothes. I do the same thing. For my everyday bag there is always at least two diapers packed in my purse. I use a messenger bag style purse cause it fits diapers perfectly. If I am having a day where I am going to be out for a long time then I pack more of the items I mentioned.
For me my biggest fear and challenge was working. I was terrified that my co-workers would hear the diapers sound, or that they could smell when I was wet. I can smell it so I assume people around me can. I however have learned that this is not really the case. When I think I smell really bad I ask my mom, she says she has never smelled me, and that she would tell me if she did. That has settled my mind about the smell a bit. However I still make sure that I change when needed so it does not have a chance of smelling. I also was scared of work cause at my job when we leave we are supposed to check each other's bags. I work retail and it is just a preventative measure against stealing. So everyday I leave I have to show the manager that I have nothing in my bag. And yes this means the have to see that I carry diapers with me. I figured they would say something about it, but not one of them has. I have even had the bravery to tell a few of them about my condition and they are ok with it.
When you go out for a party you just have to not care what people think about your condition. Just take the bull by the horns and have some fun. Prepare for the needs you may have, like changes and leaks. For me, I had to come to realize that to most people it does not matter that you are incontinent. If you are confident about it they will be confident as well. They will see that you are still the same person that they like to have fun with. You will not magically be standing in front of them in just a diaper all the sudden when you tell them or when they find out. Most adults understand and are fine with you and your incontinence. So just go out and have fun!